I would love to see schools going to a program

I would love to see schools going to a program where kids keep the same teacher for a minimum of 3 years, regardless of grade. I taught Special Education for 10 years, and I can tell you that this was one of the most important contributions to having a smooth year and helping kids achieve to their ability. It was SO nice to start the year out already knowing most of the kids, what to expect from them academically, socially, and behaviorally.

And for the kids, the payoffs were great…no need to test the new teacher, no call to prove yourself, and a real sense of ease right from the start. All we needed was a brief reminder about rules and expectations, and we were off.

My oldest son had a terrible year in Kindergarten. He left school that year having decided that he hated school and he was NEVER gonna read books, EVER.

Poor guy. He was so sad, and I was heartbroken to see my bright, optimistic little boy with such a negative experience. When I enrolled him (in a different school district) in 1st grade, I had several options to choose from. I picked the one that would keep the same teacher for at least 2 years, and what a great experience that was for my son! It was the best thing that ever happened to him in school. He had a wonderful teacher for 3 years…one who understood his kind of quirky learning style and could find ways to encourage and help him with his learning.

Anyway, that is ONE of the things I would like to see. Of course, this type of program would require 100% of all teaching staffs to be GOOD, above-and-beyond, dedicated teachers, and that is sadly not often to be found in any school.

When I have worked with really troubled kids, I have found that the most effective tool is consistency. If I had had things *my* way while I was teaching, I would have taken the 12 most troubled kids in the program, put them in MY room for a minimum of 4 hours a day, and taught them all the core subjects there. It would definitely have been different from a run-of-the-mill class…I wanted to teach in a therapeutic classroom, one where we worked on more than just the basic academics.

I also think that an awful lot of kids (not all, but quite a few), would do very well with a year round schedule. Not more than the 180 days that is typical, but perhaps 9 weeks in, 3 weeks out, or something similar. I ran into soooo many kids who would do great for the first 9 or 18 weeks, then just NOT be able to maintain behaviorally or academically. They burned out, and ended up losing the last 1/2 of the school year.

*sigh* If ONLY we had the resources to teach every child in a program that would best fit his/her needs in the truest sense. 🙂

Okay, off the soapbox and off to bed now.

I know some women who can’t handle having only one child

I know some women who can’t handle having only one child, but won’t go into detail about it. If I describe it, somehow someone out there in cyberspace might see themselves in that category and be offended by it. It’s too bad there’s not a course offered and mandated before marriage that requires a couple not only to discuss if and how many children, but how each is going to contribute to the care of one or more. I have a feeling that quite a few divorces could be prevented. It’s one thing to keep your thoughts and dreams to yourself, as well as your partner’s dreams in check.

It’s another to be faced with the brutal facts of how time consuming, hard, even aggravating it is to raise children. It’s not to be taken lightly. It’s not like marriage, where you can just jump off the boat. Well, I guess you can, but not without a great expense to little human lives. It wouldn’t hurt prospective couples to do something like volunteer in a church nursery. Our church is big enough that couples often do just that, but not just young couples. All ages help out. It’s a really nice situation.

In her defense

I think she meant that since it was not a situation where I HAD to work (hopefully) and the fact that there would be FIVE kids he would be in charge of – after working all week long FT plus hours -( about 55 hours a week with no OT pay) my husband must have a lot of patience with kids – which he does- I didn’t see that she said that kids should be put in Daycare so the dad’s didn’t have to watch them.

Many men decide they do not want the their wife’s working at all since they are not use to the kids day to day schedules etc. and for kids just one little change in a schedule can be chaos for the rest of the day – PLUS when i work nights he comes home from work – i take a nap – get ready for work – go to work – he handles any problems from that time till i get home at 6 :15 am including any problems that has the kids getting up in the middle of the night – next AM i get home go to bed he gets up with the kids – gets them breakfast ready for school etc-all while having to get himself ready etc. and i get up after 2 1/2 hours sleep when he is ready to leave for work and i am up for the day – then he goes to work and as soon as he gets home i go to bed – and he is in charge again – so technically he gets no break for almost 36 hours ( if i work a Friday night i sleep Saturday day and he takes all the kids to their sports activities etc- if i do go back to work he will be taking 5 kids one a 6 month- 1 year old along for the ride too- that’s a lot of work !!! I know DH’s who would rather their kids be in daycare than they have to do things like this !!!

Any it does take patience whether Mom or dad to have larger families – most Moms i know with larger families do not work just because the dad’s just cannot juggle the ten things going on at once- as easily as Moms do – especially when the kids are very young.